I hope you all had a lovely Christmas and New Year. I have been rather quiet on my blog, vlog, social media over the first festive period since my mam died. I concentrated on spending time with my family and trying to relax. Although Arthur has been up at 4am every day so I feel like I need another week off work to recover.
Today I am going to write down my goals for 2018 and share them with you. If they are written down it will hold me accountable for them.
2017 was one of the best (a full year with my little Arthur) but also the worst as my mam sadly passed away, aged 55, in March.
So I’ve set myself some important goals for 2018 in the hope that I can get my life back on track and be happy again. I will never be able to move on and it will never become easier. But I am slowly learning how to cope with the tragic loss.
Goal 1 – Get organised.
Now it’s January I am back to work full time after only going back 3 days after my maternity leave ended. I also have a 1 year old and I’m a single parent. I have been sssooooo stressed out about how I’m going to manage as Arthur only goes to nursery 3 mornings a week and I think the only thing I can do is get organised. This means writing everything down in my diary, getting Arthur’s clothes, nursery bag etc packed the night before. Planning meals and writing shopping lists. Tidying as I go. Ironing as I go. I also got a Google Home for Christmas which is great at reminding you to do stuff and telling to write shopping lists for you. If anyone has any hints and tips for me please comment below and help me out.
Goal 2 – Loose weight
After having Arthur just over a year ago and then loosing my mam and eating takeaways after getting home from the hospice every night for quite a while I am still not back to my pre pregnancy self. So goal #2 is to get back to my pre pregnancy weight and tone up. I started Slimming World in June last year and I am already well on my way but dreading the post Christmas weigh in on Thursday.
Goal 3 – Take more care in my appearance
This may sound vein but I have found myself in a habit of throwing on the first clothes I find, tying my hair on my head and heading out the door with no makeup on. I’m not one to care much about appearance. I get my hair cut once every 6 months and my face/eyebrows/eyelashes are all my own. Don’t get me wrong, I’d love to have the time to go and get my eyelashes done, my brows shaped and waxed and my hair cut and dyed a lot more regularly, but I really don’t have time. But over the Christmas holidays (when my sister has been home to watch Arthur while I get ready instead of him pulling at my leg while I’m brushing my teeth) I have taken an extra 10 minutes every day to put a little makeup on and run the straighteners through my hair and I have felt a lot better for it. And after the year I’ve had, I’m up for anything to feel a bit better.
Goal 4 – Socialise more
As a single mum I don’t get out….at all. I have no husband to stay home and look after Arthur while I go for a pint of milk, never mind a night out. But I do realise that I do need to socialise a bit more. So I am going to invite friends over for dinner every now and then after Arthur goes to bed. I am also going to try and find a single parenting group where I can meet up with other single parents and their little ones. Finally, I am going to ask my dad to baby sit one Saturday night every month and go out for dinner with my friends. I can’t handle a night out with a toddler to contend with on my own the next day with a hangover (and I am such a lightweight that my hangovers are horrendous) so going for dinner after Arthur is asleep means I get out of the house, it won’t cut into my time with Arthur and I can really switch off.
So there you have it. My 4 goals for 2018. I hope that by making a conscious effort to stick to these that I will feel happier, be healthier, be more relaxed and not feel like I’m just getting by. I hope they give me a purpose and something to make me feel proud of myself. What are your goals? I’d love to hear them!